Someone stole my SL!

This may sound strange, but I feel like this certain girl, that I will leave unnamed, has stolen my Second Life. I was living peacefully, getting over a breakup from a man that I thought was going to be my future Real Life , when I found out about her. I’ve encountered this before, and more than likely, you will eventually too, if you stay in SL for a great length of time, but this time it hurts.

The first time someone ’stole my sl’ was when a girl who was vehemently straight decided she was going the path I was on, taking a female sub and declaring to the world she was into BDSM as well as stealing a few lines from my profile. I have to tell you, personally I spend a lot of time on my profile and the fact that she stole things I wrote and tried to pass it off as hers, kind of got under my skin. However, they say imitation is the best form of flattery.

The second time someone ’stole me sl’ was when a girl got together with my ex and tried to turn herself into some sort of version of me in an attempt to keep him. She changed her hair color, began dressing like me and even went so far as to IM me and ask how I managed to make him love me. This, in my mind, was simply sad. So, on this occasion, it didn’t bother me.

This time, this time, it bothers me a great deal. I simply can’t get over it. When my last Master released me, I thought it was due to our time constraints. It was sad, but I was beginning to move on until he wanted to get back together with me. We began talking about it and I was considering it, until I found out he had collared a girl a week after we’d broken up. This was hard, because it seemed he hadn’t wasted any time getting over me, but then the plot thickens and it turns out he had been seeing her for a solid two months before the breakup. This was extremely difficult. I pulled up her profile and began looking at the pictures and information in it. She looked like a bad copy of me. Petite, long, red curly hair, doll dresses, a vampire, and a little girl submissive. When I read the words she wrote about my ex, I burst into tears. She wrote that he was all that mattered in either of her lives…either of her lives..she knew him in RL too?

I was crushed. I had been planning on changing my RL to be with him, we had been together for two years, it had seemed so serious! Now this girl appears and he tailors her to become me and leaves me behind. She’s living my life with my old Master and I’ve been tossed aside and forced to create a new life. I can’t seem to get over the pain of this. I’ve moved on, I’m in a new relationship, yet this still bothers me. I’ve considered having a total makeover so she didn’t look like me any more, but that seems pointless, I was me first!

I’ve been forbidden to look at her profile by my new Master, and that does make things easier, but my ex is in a group with me, and he’s quite vocal. I find myself having a slight pain every time I see him flirting with someone in the group chat. I don’t want to leave that group, it’s exclusive and I was there first..but I’m not sure how to solve this. I suppose I can mute him, but it doesn’t change the facts, she stole my SL!

Well..hello again :)

It’s been a freakishly long time since I posted. I know. I was going through the end of a relationship and the aftermath and a large real life move. However, things have finally settled for me, as much as they can at the holidays! and I’ll be posting again. I’m still not sure where this blog will go, but hey, it’s mine and we’ll just see :P

I just got into plurk. I’m crazy into plurk actually, I post and check for replies and new posts and new friends all day long and the little ‘karma’ meter at the bottom keeps egging me on! I’m MarjaLanguish on plurk of course…and here is my page : http://www.plurk.com/MarjaLanguish/invite If you’ve got a plurk account feel free to add me as a friend. :) That’s my newest ‘crazy in sl’ bit…but sorry, it’s a good crazy this time. :)

Don’t worry, I’ve got some rants coming..I just wanted to make a quick post and give you a teaser of one of my upcoming dresses :)

Me in my doll cage, wearing KBL: Christmas Doll in Red

Crazy in SL,

Marja

Down with Group Notice Abuse!

*clears throat and climbs up onto her soapbox, raises her arms and wails a flag wildly to attract attention* Pay attention. Everyone. This is important!

I feel I should adress the abuse of group notices. I’ve been out of Second Life..due to vacation and now internet issues…and I forgot to shut off group notices in one of my groups. Bad idea! Six or more notices are flooding my inbox and have capped my IMs, as well as overzealous subscribe o matic owners. I understand that some groups have a need to send out a lot of notices, freebie groups, shopping groups, etc…I even belong to one of those groups, but if I join a group that I already know is going to be overload on notices, they are immeadiately turned off in group prefs. What is abuse is groups that have no need of it, no warning, just sending out notices over and over all day long.

To what purpose, I ask? Let’s break it down. If for some weird, strange reason I decide to join a Club VIP group, I instantly turn off notices. So do most people…so say you’re running a club, and you’re trying to attract people to your events…you’re sending out notices, event after event…hour after hour, and no one is responding to those notices…why? Because you’ve either annoyed them to death and they left your group or they turned off notices and they’re not checking past notices to see what you’re saying. So…you fail. Oh, and don’t forget the catch 22 of group chat either. You announce your event…people instantly close the window, maybe, just maybe one or two people show up from the chat notice..but most everyone reached for the little ‘x’ the second that notice came across. This is great if you’re only wanting to advertise one thing all day long..but for people who are in game long enough, you’ve ruined your chance of them getting another notice from you all day long, because once that box is closed, it’s not opening again until they relog. And, while I’m on that rant…all of you people ‘requiring group’ to get into your contests..who do you think sticks around in the group and becomes an active VIP? Newbies or broke asses who have no intention of spending money in your club to begin with..sad truth, that is. You’ll maybe, just maybe get someone who contributes to your club..but don’t..wait, yes, hold your breath. I’ll be right here smiling.

For stores..you’ll be losing customers because they don’t want to read notice after notice of what you’ve made this week. Notecard it, wrap it up, do it all at once, and limit your notices…throw in a group gift once in a while and you’ll have happy group members. By the way…think about it, what good is a store VIP group? It’s not good for the customer, not really…except to find out when you’re releasing new products..which they could do by dropping by your store anyway, but let’s face it, the group benefits the store owner by offering an easy advertising method that doesn’t really take much effort. Show your valued group members a little love once in a while, in the form of some sort of group gift, and by limiting your group notices. I won’t say anything about chat in store groups, because usually the store owner starts them, and likes to socialize with the people who buy the products. Customer feedback, etc. And with the newish second life group features, it can be limited as to who can start a chat…and I personally want to thank LL for that…no more drive by group joiners shouting about thier stupid shit. Woot, woot!

And last of all, subscribe o matic owners…slow it down, please! You have the ability to send out a notecard..do it! And try to remember just because you’re not taking up a group slot, you’re still adding to the possibility of capping IMs. Hell, I’ll admit it, SOMs excited me at first…I clicked them. A lot. A hell of a lot..and now I’m suffering for it. Please, please, please, don’t abuse your power! Let me give you an example…several times a day..no fucking way! Once a day…no no! Every other day…not great, but we can live with it. Every three days or more…the perfect amount almost. Once a week is the perfect amount of updates, in my opinion anyway. Here’s a piece of advice, if you’re sending out SOM notices several times a day, or even once a day…we’ll run to your store and unsubscribe. In a hot minute, my dears.

Seeing as how I actually have next to zero readers at the moment..I realize I’m talking to myself…which in a way, is kind of great, but otherwise..*shrugs* maybe it will go down in prosperity and *hopefully* someone will read this and take action…Pass it along..please…*climbs off soap box and goes back to being*…

 

Crazy in Second Life

~~Marja Languish

My Vacation is teh sucketh…

I’m on vacation, I didn’t post that I was on vacation because I packed up my computer to come to the beach..and guess what? No internet was included with this house. So my poor desktop is sitting downstairs, lonely as can be, gathering dust..while I’m on a borrowed laptop, situtated just so, so that I can ‘borrow’ someone’s unsecured interet.  This vacation is brutual, the wind is ruining the oceanfront, the weather is ruining the waves, the house is not as advertised and as far as I’m concerned it’s not in fucking walking distance to either beach on the island…the pool, yeah, ok..that’s within walking distance, But it’s a little disappointing going to a swimming pool at the ocean. Oh, and did I mention the fucking bugs?? we’re close to a pond…and we’re getting bit up like crazy…

 

okay, none of this is SL related…except for the fact, this is WHY I can’t get into SL right now…*swears*

 

Crazy at the beach OUT of SL~

Marja Languish

What the hell??

Okay..okay..I know that people are stupid. I understand that some people have no fashion sense..but OH MY GOD…some people need a smack upside on the head ffs..what the hell?

I went to a new club, a friend of a friend thing…the club was a lag pit..all this spinning shit and scripted shit…but dear god, one of the dancers…she had obviously maxed out the sliders for breasts and ass…first of all, NEVER max out anything on your AV..and dear god, both? really? wtf?

Someone hand me a stick to get that thong out of there...

Someone hand me a stick to get that thong out of there...

 

Another thing I spotted…a girl that looked like a noob..I checked, she’s almost a year old…oh, girl…you need some help..

 

*blinks* did you actually pay for any of that?

*blinks* did you actually pay for any of that?

 

Meh, there’s so many things wrong there..I really can’t list them all..but I’d have to say her friends suck if they never directed her towards some nice freebies. And damn, do you LIKE wearing your collar IN your neck? Sheesh. “EDIT”

I’ve got a couple other rants too…I send my current dollarbie news in a notecard, with all the details..EXACT details mind you..and the two lucky type groups I’m in won’t even post it. I mean, wtf, my stuff is good, better than a LOT of the shit that people pay for, hell let alone get for free, and they can’t be bothered to post my shit. Yeah, whatever, when I’m famous I won’t forget.

Here’s another…just because you’re a girl in second life, doesn’t mean you have the tools to be a good stripper. Yes, stripping isn’t for everyone, but contrary to popular belief an older resident can still strip, and also, there is one hell of an income to be had if you go to the right clubs. It makes me sad to see girls with malformed shapes and horrendous clothes on stage..and what I can’t decide is worse or not, half ass emotes. *shakes my head*

Last one for today…clubs. Everyone thinks they can open a club and run it succesfully. WRONG. Yeah, you can open one..but don’t expect to do well. Also, ffs, don’t go with flashing lights, rotating crap, freebie textures..oh gosh, I could write a novel on the wrongdoings of clubs. Just…go to clubs, don’t open your own. Save the SL Economy!

 

Crazy in SL

~~Marja Languish

Zomg!!! Skin Sale *faints*

Okay, I”ll admit, I’m a little bit of a skin whore. Or maybe a skin slut..I’m not sure..but I will tell you that I have hundreds of skins..and golly, a few months back I deleted my old 05 inventory, gasps..the amount of skins I deleted made me cry a little..but they’re just not suitable to wear anymore. I couldn’t be seen in a skin like THAT! Anyway, back to the topic at hand…skin sale at CHAI! All her skins in the outlet are $25L!! Yes, just $25L on skins that yesterday cost $250L…they’ll be marked down for a short while then deleted to make room for new skin goodness. *faints again* But anyway…go, go now! These skins get my thumbs up because they come with freckled and non versions and tinty eyebrows! And the selection…gasp..just go see for yourself already!

Sporing a Chai Skin in the store

Sporting a Chai Skin in the store

Sporting Another Chai skin, a darker tone, in KBL

Sporting Another Chai skin, a darker tone, in KBL

Okay, so maybe I went a little nuts..but one of my favorite skins stores, a retiring line and $25L? You can understand my zomgness, right? RIGHT??

 

On to the rest of my day. First off, I got hired on to be a dancer at the Twisted Orchid..This is another omg thing for me..because it’s a hot BDSM club, and those girls make a ton of money..although that shouldn’t be my primary reason for working there..yeah yeah, I know. What I realized is, I don’t have a lot of stripping clothes…and yes, for a fashion guru, it DoES matter if when you take off the top of your outfit, the bottom looks okay, and no, I don’t want to wear lingerie the WHOLE time. Come on, now, really.

 

Lastly on my list today…my sister and I realized we were sporting the same AO. I don’t know how really..I bought that one last year sometime, and had been using other ones I got tired of..anyway..we’re standing in the shop when we both asked each other if it was the same one, at the same time! Priceless really…so nonetheless…I ran out to get another one.

 

Now because I have a penchant for new and shiny, I checked a bunch of other shops before heading back to where I got my original AO..and let me just say this…yes, your shit stinks just like everyone else and for the love of god, add animated stands to your AO’s and lower your price to somewhere in the range of ohh, let’s say REASONABLE?

 

So now I has a new job, new skins, and a new AO. Life is complete for today :D
Crazy in SL

~~Marja Languish

Double meh, it’s tuesday already…

After work today, I logged on to Second Life…and after wading out from under the mountion of notices, IM’s and notecards I had…(really, there weren’t that many, but if I say it like that it sounds like I’m popular)..I was told that -insert skin store name- here had some free and almost free skins up. Well, since I’m a huge skin whore, I ran over and snatched them all up. I put on one, funky makeup…put on another and thought I had a winner. Welll…I was wearing it for awhile and was pleased until I got naked…there are LINES under the breasts, like fake tanning lotion just pooled under there or something. So..as I was going to post them for you..I now no longer give the thumbs up on them. Sheesh.

Why do I think I have the right to knock down free shit? Well, in this case, the creator just went round and marked down REGULAR skins out of the line to free/cheap status…which means…people are paying $2500L for that look? Yuck. Besides, I can knock down free shit because there is a lot of phenomonal free stuff in Second Life..you just have to find it!

I really don’t have too much juicy stuff about SL to post…though I did go with the Kayliwulf Kingdom people to a new club..and found the oddest thing…instead of a contest board, they have a numbers raffle thing that picks the winner. Which, okay, I can see that it’s nice because it prevents the ‘alt voting’…however, there’s nothing preventing someone not in theme to enter and win with this system. I don’t think it’s something I would use. And another thing, this club claimed to be ‘freelance’ for strippers, meaning anyone who joined the VIP group could hop on a pole and strip…not a bad idea..however, what stops the trolls for stipping? *runs and hides*

On another note..I’ve been creating like crazy for Kissed by Lithium, as well as getting things ready for our spot at Hotel Dare which opens this weekend! *does happy dance* The sim looks fantastic, though I’m wondering why the hotel is just so damned small…maybe to keep out the amazons? lol..Anyway, we’re on the third floor. Ok ok, back to KBL news… today two new outfits are up in a variety of colors…and the fun for you part…a limited time dollarbie dress…

KBL:Concerta in White (limited dollarbie)

KBL:Concerta in White (limited dollarbie)

So go get your copy of this great dress and check out the store..if you haven’t yet…

 

Crazy in SL~

Marja Languish

Meh…

Okay, so everyone and thier brother has a blog…why not me too? I’ve been in Second Life for over three years, and I’m a fashion snob. I figure I can give better feedback than most of the people who are blogging these days (pardon the comment if you’ve been blogging for a long time) and hell, where else can I rant about stuff? Well, right here as of now!

About me…I am the co owner of Kissed by Lithium in Second Life, also a DJ, and sometimes a dancer. I’m over 30 in RL, yes I’m female, and that’s all you need to know!

Why did I title my blog “Crazy in Second Life?” Because I am bipolar and spend most of my time in SL…also..well, a lot of things make me crazy in SL! In fact, let me make a list!*grins*

-blank profiles

-text speak

-noobie looks

-lack of gratitude to store owners who are giving you free items

-the gimme, gimme attitude about freebies

-poorly run hunts

-the overdose of freebies in SL (Yes, freebies are great, yes, all the designers giving them out are wonderful (if it’s quality stuff that is)..but when did the SL population stop BUYING and expecting everything to be free??)

-free sex sims..look, I get that they’re there for a quick hookup, but it’s gotten to where the people who go to them expect instant sex everywhere they go now. How many of you get the random, “You’re so hot, wanna fuck?”

-people who send IMs and expect them to be answered immeadiately, or who keep IMng, over and over, and if you’re not quick enough to answer, then comes the volley of ??? with ARE YOU THERE??? (Dude, if I wanted to answer your IM, I probably would have already!)

 

Ok, Ok, let me get off my soapbox and give you some real news. The Slice of Summer hunt has started, and no, we’re not in it *sobs* but a friend of mine is, and her outfit is just too cute and sexy to not get. I’ve given up on hunts, hell, I only go to places I know now..BUT, if you’re skipping this hunt, don’t skip Twisted & Spoiled. This is her hunt gift, and as usual, Phia hasn’t hidden it very hard.

Twisted & Spoiled Slice of Summer Gift

Twisted & Spoiled Slice of Summer Gift

 

That’s all for now..btw, a new dollarbie will be coming your way this week from our store!

 

Ohh…btw, if a store let’s you rez items there, don’t be a douche, clean up after yourself! I just landed at a store that had SIX boxes from different people scattered about. WTF??

 

~~Crazy in SL

Marja Languish